Are you the kind of person who considers others needs first rather than your own? Do you also focus on what someone else might have wanted for you?
It’s good that you think so much about your relationships with loved ones. People need love, intimacy, companionship. But are you focusing on yourself by pursuing those needs?
There’s nothing wrong with thinking about others. But then again neglecting your dreams and desires in the process can still hold you back.
Hence, focusing on yourself is not a selfish act but self-love.
Moreover, when you have a habit of focusing on others, it can be hard to change. Here are some tips that can help.
Get better acquainted with yourself
Try to build a better relationship yourself. It is a great way to bring your focus back to yourself.
Identify your needs and be clear on what you want from life. It is only after this that you can achieve your goals, live according to your values, or fulfil your needs.
Events like – breakup, career change, childbirth might prompt growth and cast a spotlight on ways you’ve already changed.
And it’s okay if you take some time to adjust to these changes especially if it challenges your existing perception of who you are.
Seek what you want
Many people care about what others think of them.
Generally, it helps to get insight from others, mainly for big decisions. Still, don’t let their guidance sway you away from your desired path.
Discover what you really want from life and honour that truth. Live your life on your terms.
Create a self-care plan
This plan revolves around focusing on yourself by using self-care practices that meet your needs.
The plan includes:
- Make time for physical activity.
- Add mood-boosting foods to your diet.
- Try meditation.
- Write or draw in a mood journal.
- Read a book.
- Aim to spend two hours in nature every week.
Take small baby steps and gradually work your way toward other practices that you like and don’t let your focus shift.
Self-compassion
Offering support to your loved ones when they need is a positive trait. It shows that you are compassionate and strengthens your relationships.
Being kind can help you improve well-being by boosting feelings of happiness.
Show yourself some love, and don’t hold back from stricter standards and do the negative self-talk.
